Your soul doesn’t know what color you are.
Nor does it know if you’re female or male. It just is. And that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Your soul is precious and needs to be fed, watered and protected. Don’t do things which damage your soul—don’t steal, don’t cheat, don’t lie, don’t needlessly hurt someone, including yourself. In other words, follow the golden rule: do unto others what you would want others to do unto you. It’s really that simple.
Do not blame your parents for problems with your soul. They are human, too, so perhaps they weren’t the best at that difficult job—forgive them—it’s good for your soul.
I once read that our personalities consist of three parts: Adult, Parent, and Child. Three aspects of our personalities, but we only have one soul.
Adult: Show self-restrain, put others above your childish interests and you will thrive.
Parent: Exponential of the above and your children will thrive.
Child: Have fun, learn something and you will thrive.
Your soul needs you to let it bloom into the beautiful flower it was meant to be—always grab opportunities to grow. If you feel stifled, you need to move to better soil.
Even if the epiphany of acknowledging your soul comes late, it doesn’t matter—your soul doesn’t age.
Your soul doesn’t know how old you are, either.